For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database. While it’s not unusual to feel this way during particularly trying times, this is a situation that you and your loved ones need to take very seriously. Wanting to give up on life can be a fleeting feeling, but it can also be a precursor to suicide. That’s why it’s important to reach out to a hotline, health care provider, social worker, clergy member, teacher, friend, or family member when this feeling arises. With the right treatment and support, your will to live again can return. Follow Now : Apple Podcasts / Spotify / Google Podcasts
Understanding Suicidal Ideation
A major misconception about suicidal ideation is that it exclusively entails actively taking steps to end one’s life. That’s a form of suicidal ideation, known as active suicidal ideation, but it is not the only kind. Symptoms of suicidal thoughts include a number of behaviors:
Fixating on death or dyingGiving away possessionsActually discussing suicide or regretting ever being bornFeelings of hopelessnessMaking one’s goodbyesSecuring guns, pills, or other items to end one’s lifeAn uptick in substance use and other forms of self-harmIsolating oneselfMood swings and other personality changesChanges in daily routinesGetting one’s affairs in order for no apparent reason
Disorders Associated With Suicidal Thoughts
Suicidal ideation often stems from mood disorders such as:
Anxiety disorders Bipolar disorder Major depressive disorder Persistent depressive disorder (also known as dysthymia)
It is also linked to:
Personality disorders, most notably borderline personality disorder, Hormonal conditions including postpartum depression, perimenopause, and premenstrual dysphoric disorder. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
It’s possible to feel like giving up on life without a diagnosis of these disorders or without experiencing a hormonal shift. Life circumstances may cause one to lose the will to live. This includes a person experiencing grief or bereavement due to the loss of a loved one. Survivors may not want to live in a world that no longer contains their dear friend or family member. Experiencing a breakup or divorce is another time when life might seem too bleak to go on. And losing a job, especially if one’s identity was heavily wrapped up in the role, can lead some people to lose the will to live.
Chronic Problems, Burnout, and Trauma
Sometimes people who want to give up on life haven’t endured a dramatic life change. Instead, they may have grown tired of dealing with conditions that are chronic, burnout, and trauma.
Chronic Problems
A person who has a chronic health problem may no longer want to cope with life through the lens of that condition. Some other life events that may trigger suicidal thoughts include:
An individual experiencing a breakup: They may not only feel depressed about the breakup but about the string of failed relationships that fell apart previously. Having a lasting relationship with someone may seem completely out of reach, making the individual feel hopeless about the future or like a failure. Being in a dead-end relationship or job may also feel like life isn’t worth living anymore. An individual may not be able to imagine an existence where their home life or work life is actually fulfilling. Reporting to a job where one is routinely overlooked, devalued, underpaid, or simply not challenged can be depressing. Staying in a bad marriage for the sake of the children, one’s religion, or any other form of obligation can also result in life losing its luster.
Burnout
Burnout is another condition that can give rise to suicidal thoughts. Many parents may work during the day, then come home and work a “second shift” that involves cooking, cleaning, and caring for their children, while their spouse or partner does little or nothing to help. Having little downtime, let alone time for self-reflection, can make life seem like a series of endless tasks to complete. People in high-pressure jobs, such as medicine, also experience burnout. With long hours and little sleep, they may turn to drugs or alcohol to cope. During the COVID-19 pandemic, some health care providers took their own lives as they were overwhelmed with deathly ill patients and a lack of resources to help them.
Unresolved Trauma
Unresolved childhood trauma can also cause people to want to give up on life. Individuals who have experienced abuse throughout childhood and now suffer from complex PTSD (C-PTSD) might have flashbacks, nightmares, trouble trusting others, and thoughts that the world isn’t a safe place. They might also lose their faith in religion, making them feel even more alone as they struggle to recover from childhood wounds. Individuals with C-PTSD may struggle to imagine a world that isn’t defined by the abuse, trauma, and dysfunction of their childhood, resulting in them questioning if life is really worth living. Of course, people who experienced trauma in adulthood might have similar symptoms, but childhood trauma is unique because it impacts the developing brain.
Treating Suicidal Thoughts
Providers can give you a diagnosis, medications, talk therapy, and other treatment options. They can also give you tips about managing the emotions or circumstances that have led you to want to give up on life. How your mental health professional proceeds with your treatment depends on your symptoms and the cause of them. Wanting to give up on life because of burnout, borderline personality disorder, or situational depression all require different treatment plans. An expert can help you find the protocol that works best for you.
