How To Change Your Therapist

Despite the hurdles crossed to find a therapist, it isn’t uncommon to realize you may not be working with the right provider for you. Sometimes this realization occurs after a few sessions. Other times you may wonder if it is time to switch things up after a couple of years. Regardless of when this thought comes to mind, it is completely OK to change your therapist. Read on to learn about reasons to get a new therapist, how to change your therapist, and how to navigate the process of starting over with a new provider.

Signs It Might Be Time to Change Therapists

It is completely normal to question if you should get a new therapist. The most important thing to explore is why you’re wondering if it is time to move on to a new provider.

You Aren’t Feeling Better

First, you may have been in therapy for a long time and are curious why you aren’t “better.” Studies show that the length of therapy varies based on the individual and the type of therapy provided. For example, some modalities like cognitive-behavioral therapy are considered short-term. Other modalities, like psychodynamic therapy, may focus more generally on the human condition and can last for years. Moreover, you may feel that talk therapy isn’t working anymore and prefer to explore a somatic modality like EMDR. Perhaps you’ve been working with your current therapist for years and simply feel you could use a fresh perspective.

You Can No Longer Afford Therapy

If your financial situation has changed, you may not be able to afford your therapist’s full fee. If it would cause you financial distress to continue paying your therapist’s current rate, the best thing to do is to ask if they would be willing to negotiate the session rate with you. Many therapists are able to accommodate changes in financial situations and can offer a sliding scale rate to ensure continuity of care. If they are unable to do so, they may refer you to another therapist that offers session fees within your budget.

You Are Upset With Your Therapist

Sometimes you might get angry with your therapist. A rift can arise from disagreeing with feedback received in session, being charged a cancellation fee, or anything in-between. When a rupture occurs, bringing it to your therapist’s attention could actually lead to a breakthrough by therapeutically working through the trigger and distress with care and compassion. If ruptures aren’t skillfully mended between a client and a therapist, however, it can lead to clients quitting therapy before they are ready. The client might even stop seeking therapy altogether. If you’re considering changing your therapist due to a rupture, consider letting your therapist know how you feel first. Even if you decide you’d still like to change therapists, having an open conversation about what occurred can be very healing.

Your Therapist Is Inappropriate With You

If your therapist has exhibited any unethical or incompetent behavior that harms you like violating your confidentiality, behaving inappropriately in session, making a sexual advance, using you to meet their personal needs, or violating your boundaries, it is extremely important for you to protect and take care of yourself by ending the session and therapeutic relationship immediately. You can file a report or complaint your therapist for any behavior that is unethical or incompetent. A report may be filed by contacting your local or state licensing board to determine if the therapist is licensed and obtain information on filing a complaint with their licensing board.

Your Therapist Doesn’t Understand You

If you feel deeply misunderstood in therapy or are exhausted continually doing emotional labor to educate your therapist, it can negatively impact your mental health and healing. For example, if you are of a different cultural background, race, gender, or sexual orientation than your therapist, they might not understand or be aware of how you experience the world. While all therapists should be culturally sensitive and have knowledge of the mental health struggles of all communities, that isn’t always the case. Additionally, you may want to find someone who shares your cultural background or has had similar life experiences to you. This can bring a greater level of safety, comfort, and ease to your sessions by trusting someone to support you through something that they have also lived and experienced.