The fact that the vaccine was “fast-tracked” has made some think it isn’t safe. There is also a false conspiracy theory spreading across the internet that the vaccine has a tracking device in it. If you have friends or family who are hesitant about the vaccine or say they won’t take it, know that you’re not alone. You can start a conversation with them that could change their view. “When talking with family about the vaccine who may not have made their decision yet on if they’ll get it, approach it first with a sense of genuine acknowledgement and interest, even if you already have decided you plan to get the vaccine,” says Alyza Berman, LCSW, founder and clinical director of The Berman Center. “The fastest way to shut down a conversation before it starts is by not acknowledging someone else’s perspective. Approaching the topic calmly and ready to listen to others will immediately diffuse a tense situation and allow for civil conversation and communication,” says Berman.
How To Bring It Up
The COVID-19 vaccine has become a polarizing topic, so you should try to be strategic about how you talk about it with family, Berman says. Have empathy, and remember that everyone gets their news from different sources. Berman explains, “It’s more effective to show empathy first and find non-confrontational ways to appeal to family members that don’t challenge their personal choices—even if you disagree—and their sense of personal freedoms.” “For example, instead of doubling down and repeating yourself on the scientifically proven benefits of the vaccine, try to appeal to people’s senses by connecting it back to the good of their community or an inherently American value to ensure the protection and safety of fellow citizens. In many ways, getting the vaccine is inherently patriotic,” says Berman. Instead of trying to force your beliefs on a loved one, just have a conversation with them. Berman suggests using some non-aggressive phrases like:
“I can totally see where you’re coming from. I’m wondering if you’ve ever thought about it this way…”“That’s a good point. I can see why that may give you fear/anxiety about the vaccine. Can I share some new information I think will help you feel more comfortable?”“Vaccinations can be scary, especially since we’ve never had to experience this type of pandemic in our lives. Are you aware of the vaccines you already have, though, and why we have them?”And for people who support President Trump: “Didn’t you see that VP Mike Pence received the vaccine publicly? It was broadcasted on the news. I’ll send you the link.”
If your loved one is specifically worried about the vaccine’s safety and claims that it was “rushed,” tell them that the regular standards for safety or efficacy weren’t changed. “I think it’s important to note that the development of new vaccines moved quickly because technologies facilitated this,” says Marianne Stanford, PhD, assistant professor of microbiology and immunology at Dalhousie University. “Scientists have understood that the globe was at risk for a pandemic and that development of a vaccine would require acceleration in that situation.” Organizations like the Coalition for Epidemic Preparedness Innovations had programs in place to help develop vaccines quickly when required. “This rapid development is a result of a lot of good science coming together,” Stanford says. Just as your loved one believes there are risks from taking the vaccine, not taking it also comes with its own set of risks that you could encourage them to consider. “They will fail to protect them from a disease that has been shown to be both contagious and serious,” Stanford says. Some people who contract COVID-19 die, while others have a mild infection. Some develop a long-term infection that significantly impacts their quality of life. “By not protecting yourself, you are also putting others in your life at risk,” Stanford says.
What To Do If They Still Won’t Take It
Ultimately, everyone is entitled to their own opinion about the vaccine, Berman says. “The world experienced trauma,” she says. “Like in every traumatic situation, every individual copes with it differently. We saw deaths, sickness, and fear.” If you feel you need to, you can set some boundaries regarding whether or how you visit with the loved who refuses to take the vaccine. If they are the grandparents to your children, for example, Berman recommends considering the mental health benefits to grandparents when they see their grandkids. The best way to talk to them about the vaccine is to discuss the fear behind it. “It’s all about the fear of the unknown; just like the fear of COVID, it’s a trauma response,” Berman says. “While it may be frustrating, be patient with your parents. You can offer outdoor meetings, tests before visitation, or Zoom dinners. Be empathetic when explaining your reasons and please do not judge or criticize one another.” The information in this article is current as of the date listed, which means newer information may be available when you read this. For the most recent updates on COVID-19, visit our coronavirus news page.
