For instance, most people with panic disorder will encounter feelings of fear and anxiety and may be participating in some form of treatment to manage symptoms. Here are some things to consider when dating someone with panic disorder:
Let Go of Assumptions
When you first learn that the person you are dating has panic disorder, certain assumptions may come to mind. For example, you may think that they must be overly nervous and fearful, or perhaps you think they just worry too much. Unfortunately, many misconceptions and myths about panic disorder may have influenced your view of this condition. Learning some basic facts about panic disorder will help you better understand and support your partner. Additionally, your gained knowledge may lessen the strain that panic disorder may have on your relationship.
Meet Panic With Patience
It can be difficult to understand what your partner is dealing with if you have never experienced panic attacks or other anxiety-related symptoms. A person with panic disorder often encounters persistent and unanticipated panic attacks. These attacks are typically felt through distressful thoughts, upsetting emotions, and uncomfortable physical sensations. For example, it is not unusual to feel somatic sensations during a panic attack, such as heart palpitations, shortness of breath, nausea, tingling, shaking, and chest pain. Such symptoms are often accompanied by feelings of fear, nervousness, and even shame. When your partner is faced with panic attacks and anxiety, try to be patient and empathetic. Let your partner know that you are there for them, and that you have their safety and welfare in mind. Keep in mind that being empathetic does not mean you are ignoring your own needs. If you are dealing with your own stress, take time for yourself and practice some self-care. Managing your own tension can help you bring your best self to the relationship and may also positively influence your dating partner with panic disorder.
Be Supportive Not Suffocating
The stigma of panic disorder may prevent your dating partner from opening up further about the condition. Due to fears of rejection and worrying that others cannot relate, people with panic disorder are often susceptible to feelings of loneliness and isolation. It may take some time to build trust before the person you are dating feels comfortable providing detail about what it is like to be living with an anxiety disorder. It can help to communicate to your partner that you are available to listen, but that you will not push for a discussion until your partner feels ready. Understandably, it may feel like a betrayal to have their condition broadcast to others, even if your intentions are to help. It can also cause embarrassment or other conflicts if you mention their mental health struggle in a group setting.
Become Part of the Solution
Panic disorder can be difficult to deal with, but it can be managed through treatment. You can be part of the solution by helping your partner cope with panic disorder. If your dating partner is interested, you may be able to get involved in their treatment process. Helping your partner develop coping techniques and attending the occasional therapy session may even help your relationship grow. It’s also important to set your own boundaries for what you can do for your partner, particularly in the early stages of your relationship.
A Word From Verywell
When dating someone with panic disorder, try to keep in mind that no partner is perfect. Every person on this planet has their own set of strengths, traits, and struggles. A healthy dating relationship with a person with panic disorder can be achieved through mutual respect, patience, and understanding.
